BECOMING LOVE 

Meet your mentor, Lorena Schuth. 

For most of my life, I felt unchosen — in life, but especially in love. I wasn’t unhappy — I had everything you could ask for. But my love life told a different story.

I was so familiar with the reality of being ‘the one who’s always single’.

I wanted love and assumed I’d meet someone. But the years went by with crushes and no commitment:

I experienced the pattern of the frustrating 3-month situationship that would end in ghosting or rejection. I settled for physical intimacy when I actually wanted more… because I no longer believed more was possible. I watched my friends get into relationships while I was trying my hardest not to show how jealous I actually was. I fell for someone and tried to ‘manifest’ them — unsuccessfully.

I was the woman who would obsess over a guy who would never choose her. I was the woman who would open his WhatsApp chat for the fifth time in a row because he hadn't replied for a few hours and I was spiralling. I'd delete and re-download the dating apps, switching from feeling hopeful to feeling defeated, without admitting to myself that disappointment was what I had expected all along.

I wasn’t insecure. If you saw me back then, you would have perceived me as confident — and that’s why I just couldn’t figure out why I kept dating the same man with a different face.

I tried everything to find the answer. I spent hours in therapy offices. I bought mini-courses about inner child healing. I repeated the same affirmation hundreds of times per day until I felt resentful because I had exhausted myself and still felt unchosen.

No amount of affirmations changed my beliefs, ‘choosing better men’ didn’t change the pattern, and loving myself harder didn’t make me feel chosen by anyone but myself.

One day, I'd had enough. Instead of reaching for another technique or modality, I started looking at what was actually happening underneath — in my body, in my subconscious, in the parts of me that had learned to expect rejection and brace for it before it even arrived. I worked with powerful mentors, went deep into somatic and embodiment work, and faced the parts of myself that kept calling in the experience of being desired-but-never-chosen. I retrained my nervous system to feel safety in relationships, instead of preparing for — and therefore re-creating — abandonment.

It was painful and uncomfortable. But it actually shifted something.

Slowly but surely, I became the woman for whom being chosen felt natural — instead of something I was waiting for, trying to believe, or terrified of losing.

Since then, I have trained extensively in trauma resolution, somatics, nervous system rewiring, spiritual philosophies, and subconscious reprogramming. I’ve been supporting women through Recreate Your Self® and self concept coaching for the past six years — women who came in exhausted from trying to ‘manifest’ love, and left as the version of themselves who simply expected to be claimed.

You get a taste of the RYS method in this masterclass!